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标题: 跟贾陆英老师学《论语》为政篇第五章 2013年12月24日 圣诞快乐！ [打印本页]

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作者: 老猫    时间: 2013-12-24 17:34
标题: 跟贾陆英老师学《论语》为政篇第五章 2013年12月24日 圣诞快乐！

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作者: 小风飕飕地    时间: 2013-12-25 16:38
贾老师讲得不错，大家发言很踊跃，尤其那个“小风飕飕地”发言很积极，很好！大家要向他学习！{:soso_e128:}

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作者: ︶ㄣ雪域鈊    时间: 2013-12-25 17:04
学习、领会、顿悟、提高，贾老师讲的精彩，大家都很出彩。老秘网我们的共同的平台!

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作者: 时间飞鸟    时间: 2013-12-26 09:42
贾老师在研究古人和古汉语方面有研究，佩服
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作者: villager    时间: 2013-12-26 15:39
不错，学习了，佩服佩服

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作者: chyzhang    时间: 2013-12-27 09:52
贾老师讲的不错，学习了，谢谢

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作者: 岚岛散人    时间: 2013-12-27 20:42
现在用法律手段规定子女要常回家看看，但是由于时间、金钱等各方面的原因，又有多少人是想回而不能回的呢，这个道德层面的问题上升到法律层面到底有什么意义，始终不大明白

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作者: villager    时间: 2013-12-27 22:39

贾老师讲的不错，学习了，谢谢

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作者: 夕惕若    时间: 2014-1-6 08:46
好好学习，天天向上{:soso_e195:}

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作者: 功夫猫    时间: 2015-3-6 11:35
我这里显示的是一堆乱码！！

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作者: 秦疆    时间: 2015-3-6 11:57
我这里显示也是一堆乱码，怎么回事

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作者: ecosxs    时间: 2019-2-18 15:22
怎么都乱码了呢

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