跟贾陆英老师学《论语》为政篇第五章 2013年12月24日 圣诞快乐！

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2 o2 f3 P K3 tmso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma;mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">孝，如今还在于与父母交心、沟通，体谅父母的难处，分担父母的责任。( d6 W( o# g* W; Ymso-font-kerning:0pt">——" _( j' n, V5 K5 L6 t9 C [) d! d font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">对，这是从情感上关心父母，是尽孝的重要内容。生，事之以礼。死，葬之以礼，祭之以礼。 {5 q" u( w3 [) \ mso-font-kerning:0pt">——6 v9 |- x( R' pfont-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; 0 o0 i( J: ]5 y: c; lmso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">对父母的孝道，是义。如何尽孝，是礼。如何行礼，就是生而不违，去世行丧礼，祭祀行祭礼。《孝经》说：! N9 `6 {# l6 f' o \2 V" c4 _mso-font-kerning:0pt">“* u4 n# H9 J6 b, I' N* O, @0 ifont-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">礼者，敬而已矣。故敬其父，则子悦；敬其兄，则弟悦；敬其君，则臣悦；敬一人，而千万人悦。所敬者寡，而悦者众，此之谓要道也。: H2 }! q1 B: T/ I3 F mso-font-kerning:0pt">”7 D/ T1 Z t: p+ T4 E2 Qfont-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">礼的内在依据是孝悌，而外在表现，就是一个: p; h1 b; V6 N( S1 t( @ mso-font-kerning:0pt">“; G( ?' U& E$ _+ T2 v; u& t font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">敬! j# C# k. j& J9 Y3 a2 i mso-font-kerning:0pt">”8 U4 V4 @% o( w. m f font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; 5 f3 o- q% `3 R5 Q% Rmso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">字。所以，如能尊敬他的父亲，那么其儿子就会喜悦；如能尊敬他的兄长，那么其弟弟就会喜悦；如能尊敬他的国君，那么其臣下就会喜悦。尊敬的是一个人，却能使千万人喜悦。所敬者虽然只是少数，而喜悦的人却有千千万万，这就是为什么把推行孝悌之道和礼乐教化称为& B1 d; M5 j2 c6 A- ]7 J3 d; O mso-font-kerning:0pt">“! d0 U5 L/ ^2 w3 {) E% J4 wfont-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">要道& \! W8 Q9 D/ C r mso-font-kerning:0pt">”5 k7 X- b+ M' r0 p3 z/ R' _7 g3 ffont-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">的意义所在啊。- x. D9 \2 l, K$ q, G t# { mso-font-kerning:0pt">

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现在用法律手段规定子女要常回家看看，但是由于时间、金钱等各方面的原因，又有多少人是想回而不能回的呢，这个道德层面的问题上升到法律层面到底有什么意义，始终不大明白

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贾老师在研究古人和古汉语方面有研究，佩服

我这里显示也是一堆乱码，怎么回事

好好学习，天天向上{:soso_e195:}

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贾老师讲的不错，学习了，谢谢

我这里显示的是一堆乱码！！

不错，学习了，佩服佩服